Going through a heartbreak is a hard episode for everyone and if it is the first time someone plays with your feelings, you might need some professional advice to handle your emotions and your situation as a whole. Here are some tips so that you focus on healing rather than revenge.
Don’t stay in touch with your ex
Although is hard to say goodbye and remove someone completely from your life, it is the most intelligent step you can take. As you both decided to end your relationship, it happened for a reason and if you want to heal, then you have to take the necessary steps. In this way, you will learn how to make a difference between wanting and needing someone.
Stay away from unhealthy thoughts
Although the tendency to analyze your past over and over again is going to haunt you for a while, avoid getting stuck with unhealthy emotions and thoughts and focus on what you can do in your new chapter to be happy. As reality is a result of our thoughts, it is in your best interest to surround yourself with people and thoughts that lift you up.
Discover what makes you happy
As you are single again, you can now focus on the things that inspire you and you love. There is no need to compromise anymore in order to fit with your partners’ plans and interests and for sure you will find a way to benefit from this advantage. You can finally build a happier future and the easiest way to visualize your new chapter is via meditation.
Build a support system
Although you might try to do your best to cherish this new chapter in your life and come back stronger than ever, you also need the support of the people around you. You might need an entire community to support you and be by your side when you are overwhelmed with memories. It is still part of your life and you cannot just wake up one day and remove the past.
Try to catch up with all your friends and relatives, neighbors, and people that have been knowing you for a while and open up. They will for sure share their stories and this might help you understand that your difficult situation and your strong feelings are normal and this is what makes you human.
Get ready to feel every emotion
You can only heal if you have cried long enough and grieved the loss completely. Don’t be surprised if your emotions change from one extreme to the other, it is part of the process and you should get used to it in order to allow yourself to heal.
Try to allow yourself to feel every emotion, from abandonment to freedom and rejection, obsession and betrayal. All these will enable you to accept the discomfort you’re going through and at some point, your emotions will balance. As soon as you reach the level of acceptance you will move on and be ready for a new relationship.
Don’t waste too much time suffering though
As much as is normal to suffer from a breakup, it doesn’t mean that this should start hindering your professional and personal development for too long. Take some months, weeks, or years, as it is different for everyone and only if you have the feeling that it became a lifestyle to grief and be consumed by the heartbreak, then you should seek help from a therapist.
Love is part of life and life wouldn’t be so exciting without it anyway. Even though it might be hard to go through a heartbreak, it is part of life and it all happens for a reason.
Think positive, be confident in the future
Even if you have gone through a breakup, think positively. Be confident in the future! You will definitely find the right person to meet your expectations! If you are more afraid or do not know how to approach the person you like correctly, I invite you to read here about How to start a conversation with someone you like? Find some tips and ideas which will help you find the Other Half of Your Heart.
How was it in your case? How did you manage to move on?
Did you seek professional help right away or you take the time to digest your feelings and equalize your emotions on your own?